Starting out it might have felt that Romeo and Juliet had nothing on your life but as you progressed that narrative might have changed. What most couples might not understand is that this feeling is not unique. Feelings do cool off with time to allow for a deeper engagement. One is to commit and create something beautiful together and the other is to part ways. The mistake most couples make is assuming that just because their feelings are over, the relationship is doomed and that they would be better off apart. If you are a believer of fighting for your love counselling is one way of doing that and you never know what surprises may be awaiting you.
What couple counselling seeks to do is to bring back the one-ness of a couple. It is started off by allowing them to reminisce of a time when love came easily. This elates the couple since they get to remember days where their love mattered. A chance is then given for them to illustrate how the situation got so dire. It allows for a plan as to how the whole counselling will be approached and in a customized way at that . Their goals as a couple are also featured so as to lay a framework on which they can build on.
The next stop is enhancing conflict resolution measures. Most marital problems are birthed from inability to communicate feelings properly. People rush for cover if they feel all the stones are being thrown their way though they would have otherwise apologized if the matter was approached differently. Better courses of action in the face of problems that arise is what counselling seeks to help couples achieve. This creates an atmosphere of acceptance , forgiveness and trust. While it might be hard to go past issues like affairs among many others one-ness, intimacy, respect and trust can be with time re-established with better conflict approaches.
In some cases staying in a relationship will do a couple more harm than good. It becomes very difficult for them as a couple to mend fences as a unit. As a matter of fact the couple might actually be better off on their own. Still even in this circumstances counselling is of utmost importance. This aids in helping them empty their pain and set them towards the path of forgiveness that brings about healing. This way they will be no bad blood between the people even as they each take their different ways.